So today I want to talk about passion. I am a passionate person. According to my ex I am someone who gets obsessed with things. I am not quite sure he meant it in a positive way, but I take it in a positive way. So I get obsessed with things and people….. Maybe it is a product of my messed up childhood, all or nothing thinking…but for the first time in my life, I am saying, I am not sure it is a bad thing.
I used to imagine with dread how it would feel to settle down. I would get these images of couples that would nag on each other. You know, couples that are so secure that other will not leave that they feel nagging and negging if you will, is their birthright. I remember thinking that I would never want this. Instead I imagined passionate love….What a fantasy, or is it really?
I am becoming to believe that passion in the relationships depends on what kind of a person you are and your partner is. Sure you can have an absolutely dull relationship. Sure you can have a relationship where the plates are thrown and sex follows every fight. But, I believe there is another way, maybe quite stupidly…
See, today, even after years, my career does not bore me. Although I have my dull moments, in general I feel passionate about my career. For me, it is not a normality to think that I have to get out of bed every morning. The same way I feel about my career, I would like to feel about my relationship. I can accept that there are some natural fluctuations, but I cannot accept that I would feel generally bored of my partner.
So, I assume, if it is possible to find a career you feel passionate about, it must be possible to find a partner you feel passionate about. Furthermore, I assume in the end, it depends on a person. Not everybody thinks passion is relevant. However, I claim that people who feel passion is irrelevant should seek refugee among other people who share this opinion and the opposite. I would be lying if I said, I do not think one position is better than the other. Of course I think being passionate is better. However, I am fully aware that most might not share my opinion and furthermore might find it alienating.
In the end, I guess what my ex called obession, some call passion. It is just different names given to the same thing, depending on a positon. So I get passionate about people and about my hobbies and work? If someone is scared about it, then perhaps I am not for them. Also this is probably a sign to choose my partners as well as my friends carefully. I am aware of this, today. But similarly I am aware that what one might call obsession, another one sees as passion.