The biggest obstacles towards the way to your happiness are the ones that lie inside you. Sure you can have some real outside hinders such as lack of money, resources, support, but I have never seen anything as powerful as our belief system – even class binds are not as strong.
That is not to say that your happiness lies in the hands of yourself nor to shame people for not achieving great success. Quite the contrary, I think emotional obstacles are even more difficult to overcome than our material and social limitations. Furthermore, lets face it, overcoming them is usually not a cheap hobby either as it will quite often require outside help. The kind of outside help which is among other things also frequently stigmatized.
I have had many emotional obstacles in my life. For instance, I spent years with my ex being mortified of break-up and being alone in a foreign country. I still have emotional obstacles – I am still really scared of not finding a new job…scared to the degree that I almost forget that maybe with my CV and talents I could instead try to choose a job that I enjoy and where I feel appreciated.
It is surprising how much these emotional obstacles colour the way you see the world. Take the two personal examples I gave. I was completely sure that I would spend my life in loneliness after breaking up with my ex. I was also completely sure that everyone in my acquaintance circle will want to disown me or will just say – this is what we really expected from her….she can never really keep her relationships…must be something wrong with her.
Whereas I think my example is extreme, I do believe that most people have such emotional limitations which keep them from fulfilling their potential. We have fears, we have negative beliefs…and sometimes we don’t even know we have them. For the most part of my life I was completely convinced that everyone would celebrate upon my failures, simply because this was something I had experienced when young. This belief naturally also influenced the kind of people I hanged around with….you know the kind to whom you never dare to say you failed because they will just tell you that they told you so and that you should not have tried anyways.
Overcoming these emotional obstacles is a damn difficult job. In my experience it takes years. And lets face it, no one in the current world wants to be in repair for years. It is an immediate gratification society. All I can say is that if you do find it within yourself to work through some of these emotional obstacles, your life can change in unexpected and mostly positive ways.